The Winning Family Audiobook

Coming soon!

Exciting news! We’re launching an audiobook of The Winning Family this year!

We are delighted to announce the forthcoming release of the audiobook edition of The Winning Family: Where No One Has to Lose by Dr. Louise Hart and Kristen Caven, published by Uplift Press. Narrated by the authors themselves, this audiobook promises to be a transformative listening experience for anyone with a family.

The Winning Family isn’t just another parenting manual; it’s a comprehensive guide that offers practical strategies and profound insights into personal growth as a parent as well as building strengths in chidren. Hart and Caven draw upon their expertise to provide readers with invaluable tools for nurturing strong, resilient families where every member feels valued and supported.

Listen to a sample chapter on Substack

The Winning Family audiobook invites listeners to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth, offering practical strategies and heartfelt wisdom for creating a family where no one has to lose. Our goal with this audiobook is to reach even more parents and grown children, and empower them to create the relationships they want to have.

Narrated with warmth and authenticity, Kristen Caven brings each chapter to life with her engaging and sometimes comedic energy, which readers will experience more of through her interview podcast, The Whining Family. Julianne Idelman of Hand in Hand Parenting says, The Winning Family is a book you will return to again and again for Hart’s reassuring words, lighthearted confidence in the love of parents for their children, and down-to-earth ideas about making the parenting journey a path to self-discovery.”

Listen to a sample chapter on Spotify

Pre-orders for the The Winning Family audiobook are now available. Reserve your copy in advance at a discounted price, and be the first to listen when it arrives!

“What can I say, this book is life changing. If you truly care about the happiness of your children and the world they live in, this book is for you. This book can be use as a daily resource for parenting improvement and a fun text to help you and your parenting partner to bond, heal and improve your life as a parent.” —J.M. Madrigal

“Even with two small children under the age of three, I read this book in only a few days. I couldn’t put it down, and when I did, I couldn’t wait to pick it up again! The Winning Family should be required reading in all high schools and colleges.”—Lisa L. Wharton, NJ

“My husband and I were on our way to separating. But since reading this book and learning how to listen and deal with feelings, we have worked through so many problems. It has saved my daughters from growing up with divorced parents.”Tiffany, mother


Spring SALE

April is Child Abuse Prevention Month

Child abuse happens when things go terribly wrong. Parents need to know it’s all about prevention, and they can make a difference. Because we want to put The Winning Family into every parent’s hands, the ebook is on sale this week for 99¢! 

An excerpt from Parenting and Empowerment, Chapter 15 of The Winning Family:

Violence: The Abuse of Power

Understanding power dynamics is crucial for a safer world. A 1992 study revealed that, of all the industrialized nations, the United States was the most violent, and since then, police violence has increased (disproportionately so against Black Americans). Worldwide, women and children are the primary victims of violence, and men are the primary perpetrators. Conditioned to accept violence and trained to commit violence, many men have difficulty talking about how it affects them—as perpetrators or as targets, when they are victims of child abuse, rape, or war.

Violence is the number-one health hazard in this country, more threatening than cancer, heart disease, or even automobiles. Here are some 2020 statistics.5

  • Terrorism is on the rise worldwide, with far-right extremism on the rise in the United States and beyond.
  • One in three women worldwide suffer physical or sexual abuse by an intimate partner.
  • Since 1963, four times more teens have been killed by guns at home than soldiers killed in all wars since then combined.
  • Over 60 percent of women have experienced violence online (and 6 percent of men).
  • Mass shootings are now so common that many aren’t even reported in the news.

Every family has to deal with violence in some form or another, within the home, among extended family, in the community, or on the news. Children raised in violent homes learn violence as a way of life, doing unto others what was done unto them or what their parents did to each other, unless they find safety in which to heal and make new choices. Many boys raised in violent households become perpetrators, while their sisters learn to accept abuse as normal.

The Mouse the Monster, and Me – text by Pat Palmer, illustration by Sue Rama

Violence of all kinds is reaching epidemic proportions in US families, and it does not stay within families. Childhood maltreatment roughly doubles the probability that an individual engages in many types of crime.6 Because violence creates ripples, domestic violence is not a private family problem. It affects all levels of society.

Violence has become so widespread in our society that we have come to accept it as normal, but it not normal. In fact, America is below average compared to other developed countries, according to the International Peace Index.7

Raising children with positivity will not protect them from all bullying and violence, but it absolutely builds resilience and instills a respectful and compassionate moral code, plus a sense of empathy and justice.

If you live in an abusive home, be responsible for your own safety and that of your children. You must find someone to talk to. You must get help. Visualize what you want for yourself, and muster your courage to make a change.

Timing is important. Protect yourself and your kids from harm. This is your right and your responsibility.

If you were raised in an abusive family, instead of repeating past mistakes, learn from them. Remember what it was like for you. Instead of wounding your children, heal yourself. You didn’t deserve abuse; neither do your kids. Seek information. Get help. Find supports. Believe in yourself. Be smart as you build your inner strength and skills. Develop a vision of hope. You can move away from past destructive patterns and create a positive healthy future for yourself and your beloved children.

The Winning Family ebook
is on sale for a limited time for 99¢!

Order today at Amazon or Barnes & Noble


Kids can learn violence prevention skills by understanding power dynamics and how to manage them. Get The Mouse, the Monster, and Me for a child you love today! 

Positive Psychology + Parenting = More Love

The connection between Positive Psych and Positive Parenting

An excerpt from The Idea of Winning, Chapter One of The Winning Family:

Much has changed since I became a mom. Mental illness is no longer a dirty secret, and mental health is considered as important as physical health. Neuroscience has validated all of this book’s wisdom, and studies on psychological strengths have, in fact, created a new field of psychology focused on flourishing—the state of growth above and beyond recovering. In fact, the term positive parenting, which we coined in one of Mom’s brochures over thirty years ago, is now widely used for reinforcing positive behavior. Positive parenting isn’t about making kids behave. Instead of the outside-in word behavior, we prefer the inside-out word agency. We focus on building inner authority, creativity, and positive self-esteem. We focus on connection.

Today, writers, bloggers, coaches, and teachers offer many parenting styles: helicopter parenting, gentle parenting, good-enough parenting. What we want to encourage in this book is real enthusiasm for the power of love in a family—empathy and understanding; belonging and strength.

Positive parenting is based on the foundational concept that nurturing positive emotion makes us more capable and happy. The goal of this book is to “improve family life by better understanding the dynamics of love, parenthood, and commitment,” which positive psychology textbooks cry out for. However, our philosophy goes even further than that; the tools we teach can help end cycles of trauma and violence that have gripped humanity for millennia.

My blended win-lose family was nothing unusual. Among the many changes to this edition is the addition of a chapter on broken or divided families, with insights into what makes re-mixed families work. I don’t know much about my stepmom’s upbringing, but my father’s was certainly traumatic and tumultuous, in spite of his cheerful spirit. Of my three parents, my mom was the only one who transformed herself, by taking the time to examine and release her own dysfunctional patterns. She worked hard to free herself from the trauma that shaped her, and now she shows others how to do it. One of her readers said, “This book is better than years of therapy.”

Currently, the world is having an awakening about the intergenerational effects of ancestral, generational, and childhood toxic stress, trauma, and violence. A Kaiser study changed the world when it revealed that Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)3 negatively affect our mental, emotional, and physical health all our lives, even into old age, and into the lives of our grandchildren.

The Winning Family has always been about creating Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs or PACEs) that build resilience. Many of us have experienced childhood trauma, and our “natural” responses to the world are “off,” but we now know more about overcoming, healing, and well-being. In trauma, we lose. In resilience, we win.

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Kicking off a New Edition!

The Winning Family rides again

Big news!

A new edition of The Winning Family will be coming out this fall. Louise and Kristen have been pouring over every chapter  to update this beloved classic for a new generation of parents, in celebration of The Winning Family’s 35th anniversary, we invite you to follow our Kickstarter and get connected with all of our positive parenting resources.

If you would like to get behind the idea that families should be places of positivity and growth for kids and parents alike, we invite you to back this project on Kickstarter!

Whether or not you choose to back this project, we urge you to see the video. The book is full of so many much-needed ideas, techniques, and guidelines for parents that you might also want to support the project on behalf of a friend or family member.

Check out our chapter list for all of the areas of parenting we cover: 

  1. The Idea of Winning
  2. You Are Creating a Masterpiece
  3. The Greatest Gift: Self-Esteem
  4. Building Self-Esteem
  5. Self-Esteem Protection Skills
  6. “I Know They Love Me, But I Don’t Feel It.”
  7. Listening Skills
  8. Asking and Refusal Skills
  9. Dealing with Feelings
  10. Coping Skills for Stress
  11. The Power of Words
  12. Parenting Responses that Affect Self-Esteem
  13. Parents Are Leaders: Re-Visioning Your Family
  14. Parenting Leadership Styles
  15. Parenting and Empowerment
  16. Family Boundaries
  17. Discipline Without Damage
  18. Problem Solving
  19. Touch is Vital
  20. Beliefs & Believing
  21. Monkey Talk
  22. Who’s Pulling Your Strings?
  23. Obsession With Perfection
  24. Internal Barriers to Self-Esteem
  25. External Barriers to Self-Esteem
  26. Cultural Barriers to Self-Esteem
  27. Guidance in the Digital Age
  28. The Power (and Pleasures!) of Play
  29. Bodies and Brains
  30. The Fractured Family
  31. Extending Your Family
  32. When Everybody Wins

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